Be friends with exboyfriends and exgirlfriends?

Hello~ 

Okay firstly, this post is not applicable for ex-wives or ex-husbands. *untuk muda mudi je*

So,based on the topic mentioned, Salah ke kalau berkawan dengan excouple? Tak kesahlah exboyfriend or exgirlfriend, dua2 pun ex jugak kan? Jawapannya, tak salah, Cuma ramai orang yang aku kenal tak prefer be friending ex. I don’t know, some of them say “ Dah ludah takkan nak jilat balik” .Hello! Bila masa boleh main ludah2 pulak ni, cakap lah , “da putus takkan nak couple balik”. 

Anyway, it’s not about that, it’s about why people don’t prefer to be friends with their exes. Ada yang kata tak nak mengimbau kenangan lalu , pahit manis sewaktu bersama sebab takut jatuh cinta balik. Haha. Sweet. Ape salahnye jatuh cinta baik? Kalau dah tuhan tentukan jodoh korang kan. Lain lah kalau masing2 dah berpunya, tak payah la nak bercinta balik. Cukup sekadar kawan.

Ade pulak kawan I kata, mane ada istilah lelaki kawan je ngan perempuan? Mesti ada connection somewhere. HAha. Yang tu I think betul jugak lah. Tapi kalau betul statement tu maka kawan2 kat office yang melepak sama2 tu takkan lah diorang semua ada perasaan sesame sendiri. That’s what we call professionalism.

In my case, I can proof that I can be friends with my exes. (Ni ex mase skolah je lah) Nanti ade pulak orang kata, “banyaknya exboyfriends”. Alah, macam lah korang takde. Ye lah, dah tak jadi jodoh nak buat macam mana. Kita sentiasa harapkan hubungan tu ke jinjnag pelmain, tapi kalau dah asik jumpa ngan orang yang salah nak buat macam mana. There’s this saying “Tuhan akan temukan kita dengan yang salah sebelum yang betul.” So, tahniah la kepada sesiapa yang memang ada satu couple je sampai sekarang.

Anyways, elok je I kawan ngan my ex. Siap boleh “aku kau” ngan dia. Yelah dah matang kan masing2 boleh terima qada’ dan qadar’ (jadi ustazah kejap)..masing2 boleh forgive and forget. So apa yang kitorang kongsi hanyalah cerita pasal life. Memang takde kaitan dengan perasaan. Apa yang dah lepas tu kami lepaskan, kami pandang ke depan yang kami takde jodoh. Oh, lagipun masing2 dah berpunya.

Back to the points, ada kawan I ckp dia tak boleh terima ex dia balik tak kiralah ex dia pujuk macam mana pun , sebab kalau ex dia betul2 sayang dia, ex dia takkan pernah tinggalkna dia. Fuyooo. Tabik spring! Betul lah tu. Maybe she deserves a better person who would really appreciate her.

Taknak kawan dengan ex sebab cemburu dia dah ada girlfriend lain? Aihh, ini kes masih sayang nihhh.. kena forgive and forget lah. Bukan senang tau. Makan masa tuuuu..lama! Hati yang berkecai tu pun belum bercantum lagi.

Tak boleh terima kelemahan ex and rasa macam loser kawan dengan excouple? Yang ni pelik lah jugak. But well, human being are born with unique tastes and characters. So, tak pelik lah kan. Maybe memang ex dia macam loser kot? -____-"

Haaaa,ni ada kes, dia nak kawan ngan exgirl dia tapi exgirl dia hentam dia kaw2 punya, sebab dia belum ready nak kawen ngan exgirl dia tu, sebab tu diorang putus, tapi exgirl dia still hantar msej kat dia marah2. Last2 terus dia malas nak kawan ngan exgirl dia.

Ada yang dia kawan ngan exboy dia sebab nak tegok berapa ramai pulak perempuan yang jadi mangsa playboy ex dia ni, walaupun dia tau ex dia suka tukar girlfriend. Seronok agaknya dia tengok ex dia main couple putus banyak kali macam yang dia pernah kena.

Ok lah, ni ape yang I tau yang I kongsi. Takde kaintan dengan yang hidup atau yang dah meninggal dunia. Yang terasa? Tolong jangan terasa sebab post ni randomly je. I tak mention nama sapa2 pun. Ok. Tapi ada je yang masih boleh kawan macam biasa dengan ex. Kena professional la, tolak tepi segala yang boleh membawa kepada perhubungan semula. Not as easy as I say it but it’s not impossible. :)

Take care bloggers!

Kegemukan terserlah~

Hello bloggers! That's the latest me.

Gemuk kan aku? Dulu beriya lah pakai Fellina, lepas tu duk umah sewa kerjanya makan aje..Dah malas nak sapu…Rasenye paling ringan berat aku 54 je..tu pun time puasa, sekarang mak oii dah 61kg okayyy! Bukannye tak boleh kurus tapi tak boleh tahan dugaan tengok makanan lah lately ni.Tiap2 malam makan. Badan aku ni senang turun senang naik, so aku tak risau sangat lah.Yang masa puasa 54kg, bila praktis tak makan malam berat maintain je 56kg. Masalahnya nak maintain berat tu bukan senang. Ape? Amek ubat kururs? Tak maul ah, nanti mesti ada side effect long term. Biarlah naturally turun dengan cara sihat.

Nak exercise punye lah malas.Adoi ape nak jadi lah dengan aku ni.haha. Ape? Nanti kalau berat bertambah takde orang nak? Itu kan jodoh, di tangan tuhan, kalau ade orang nak aku, ade lah, kalau takde, bukan jodoh la tu. Terima qada’ dan qadar Allh. *Jauhnye melalut ni*

So, kepada sesiapa yang nak tambah berat badan boleh la consult aku. Aku bagi free tips cara2 nak gemuk.HAHA. Gemuk kat lengan,peha,perut, dagu dan yang paling penting pipi. Caranya makan lah banyak kali sehari dah makanlah apa2 yang korang mengidam tu. Selagi mampu nak makan, makan lah, kang tak dapat makan, nangis pulak.haha

Pipi aku je dah 2 kilo kot? Adoi..Takpe lah, aku dah target dah habis je belajar ni aku nak diet lah..turunkan 61kg tu kepada 54 kg balik. Waahhh..macam impossible kan ? Tapi boleh je, dah memang jenis aku ni berat senang naik dan senang turun kan. HAHA.

So, kepada bloggers, kita sememangnye tahu cara2 nak mengamalkan gaya hidup sihat Cuma nak dengan tak nak je. Bak kata pepatah “ Nak seribu daya,tak nak seribu dalih”. So buang penyakit Mim Alif Lam Sin tu yer..Kene pergi exercise, makan sayur dan buah2 banyak2. To those who refuse to do so, Marilah Gemuk bersama2. HAHA. Tatatititutu      ~

And that's me from a different angle. nampak kurus pulak kan? haha. boleh berubah2. Heran. Bubyez~

photoshake

Salam. 

This post is just to meke me feel better. Since I'm not having a good feeling lately.

Ok, so I really love the photoshake thing. I can combine photos in my phone and make it all-in-one. (betul ke term tuh?)

Ok, lets see how it works while looking at my photos of course!

Oh! that's me in the lecture hall.

That's just me.

On kak huda's wedding day.

And that's me AGAIN.

Me again. choose one best facial expression..which one?

That's a student from Kazakhstan. Putih gila!

Ok, so basically that's what Photoshake do. haha

That's all :)

I'm a newbie-Instagram.

Assalamualaikum.

Since I mentioned before that my coming posts will be about happiness...I'm sharing my new obsession! Not that obsessed though. It's my Instagram. I'm a newbie so I'm still learning these gadgets thingy. I just love the features of the Instagram where it changes the photo to be artistic? Yeah.something like that. But yeah, I prefer to upload photos on facebook since I only have few friends on Instagram.LOL. Do follow me on Instagram so that I can follow you too. :)
Just click here to see my page: http://instagram.com/nisaruslan/

It's something like this :

That's all to share. *Blogging tengahari ni memang ngantok lah hehe*

Enjoy your day! :)

A page of my diary-13april2013

Dear fellow bloggers…

For me the best way to settle a problem is to tell a person, or share the problem with them but somehow when we don’t have anyone we can trust to tell the problem or probably the person we trust have his/ her problems then we wouldn’t have the heart to add up to his/her burden , right?

So, other than that, boleh lah pergi shopping, atau nyanyi lagu kuat2 untuk lepaskan that uneasy feeling or maybe blogging.

So I’m just sharing what I feel here. I know people say we should share what makes us happy in our blog but I guess it’s my blog so what’s wrong with sharing my thoughts of the negative or sad phase of my life?

Semalam I ada kat Terengganu, Kemaman to be precise. Ye lah, the trip to Kak huda’s wedding was fun with friends but it seems the leader and the driver made us feel  like the trip was a disaster and the worst part I pity my friends yang datang dari jauh dan tak dapat nak beli barang2 souvenir dari Terengganu pun, the driver buat hal and our leader pulak menyebelahi driver, ape hal tiba2 nak jadi bestfriend driver?  Kesian lah kat classmates, dia pun macam tak boleh nak negotiate pulak ngan driver, instead dia boleh tegaskan ngan kitorang suruh ikut cakap driver that kita tak boleh singgah mana2. I tak tahu lah tapi I heard that the driver and our ‘hopeless’ leader ada plan nak pegi memancing malam tu bertiga je naik bas, and then plan nak pegi kuantan lelaki je, then yang bayar duit minyak diorang tu siapa? Kitorang okay! I can say they were selfish. Tapi takpelah, biar orang buat kita jangan kita buat orang. Sudahnya, the day ended with us feeling not satisfied with the leader and driver. Tapi taknak gaduh punya pasal, kitorang mengalah lah from the start dia buat hal. Sabar je lah.

Then, boleh pulak at the same day ada problem dengan tiket Legoland memang terus rasa tak senang hati seharian sebab yang beli tu dia mengaku dia kawan skolah I tapi masalahnya I tak pernah ingat pun siapa dia. She was being friendly so walaupun I tak kenal dia, entah macam mana dia boleh kenal I, then bila tiket jadi problem, supplier pun kata suruh pulangkan duit, I rasa bersalah sangat. But that friend blamed me pulak siap cursing, pergh! I was like “Nasib baik I tak kenal dia walaupun dia mengaku my friend”. Adoi.. That was a stressful moment okay! But what to do, I just orang tengah, supplier pun ..hmm..Fikir2 macam nak stop je lah Legoland thingy nih. Soon lah! Banyak lagi kerja boleh buat kan.Rezeki ada kat mana2.

Worst come to worst, I argued with him..like AGAIN. Ok, ni cerita personal but I just had to share. Sometimes I don’t know what words I should say, when I think it’s right, he might take it wrongly, kata2 tak boleh tarik balik, once U said it, it’s said! Tapi once people take it to heart, we can’t do anything. I know because I know the feeling lah! I don’t know if that thing is appropriate or not to say to him but when I said, it seemed that he kept quiet that means it was inappropriate but I’ve said it. What to do..

Once,I told myself that I will only let myself to be in love or accept a man when I think the time is right, bila dia kenal I then terus kahwin ngan I. Tak payah nak kenal lama2. Bagus lah kan, bak kata mak, elakkan segala maksiat. So I put a barrier to all guys kecuali berkawan. Seriously KAWAN. But you know, bila dalam berkawan mesti ada yang nak lebih dari kawan. I resisted to that. Halang diri I from lebih dari kawan. I taknak kecewa lagi. That was the reason. I tak nak putus couple or whatsoever tuh semua. For me it’s nonsense. Baik, kenal terus kahwin, kenal lama2 couple pun belum tentu kahwin.

But the journey is not that easy. Once U get to know the person means u accept the fact that U are gonna go through rough patch too. Tak semuanya indah. Semua masalah mematangkan kita. Semua masalah ada jalan penyelesaianya. It’s how we settle the problems that matters.

But once I gave myself a chance for me to love again, I HAD GIVEN MYSELF TO TAKE THE RISK OF BEING HURT OR TO HURT AGAIN. That’s the biggest gamble in relationship. Takkan nak menyesal pulak lepas dah give a chance. Bear with it lah kan Nisa, You chose that way of life. To accept a man, so try to retain the relationship is the best thing to do. I was hoping that he could be the one, I gave him a chance, I gave myself a chance to love him, and now it's our choice to be together or not. As far as I know, he's still my only choice.Selebihnya, I serahkan pada Allah untuk tentukan jodoh. I took this meaningful quote because it is related to my situation.
"No one falls in love by choice, its by chance. No one stays in love by chance, its by work. No one falls out of love by chance, its by choice."

Kadang2 I kena mengalah jugak, sebab most of the time, I appreciate it bila dia mengalah dengan perangai I ni kan. I respect him. But problems do come. I respect it when he could rational me when I’m irrational but when suddenly he sounded like he gave up on me, I feel that something is not right. He’s never been like that. So I think that he’s giving up on me and that actually hurts so bad but truth always hurt. You just have to accept the truth. Takkan you nak teruskan relationship kalau he wants to walk away with no feelings towards you? Keikhlasan dalam perhubungan sangat penting. Kalau dia terpaksa teruskan relationship dengan kita just for the sake of retaining the relationship, takde maknanya hubungan tu. Dua2 kena saling menyayangi.  Jangan kalah dengan masalah. Tuhan takkan beri masalah yang kita tak mampu nak tanggung. Semuanya ada hikmah. Dan kena ingat semua benda berlaku dengan izin Allah.

Everything seemed to happen one whole day. I was hoping that he could make me laugh or smile again after a stressful day. But I tak sampai hati nak bagitau dia what was bothering me since he himself looks tired and I don’t know what the h*ll I was feeling. I wish Allah show me the easy way to life but if it’s always easy then that’s not LIFE .

One thing I know, he has always made me laugh, once we hit the rough patch, we argue, it really affects my whole day. Rasa macam satu hari tu tak bermaknya if we have problems.

That’s all bloggers. Take this as reading a page of my diary lah. Next post in this blog, I’ll try to write when I’m happy only. :)  Assalamualaikum .

Zalora.com.my

Hi Bloggers! 

Just got back from class and my housemates were crazy because they just got their shoes from Zalora. Oh! I got my shoes earlier than them but I have no idea why. We bought the shoes on the same day (last Sunday night) but we just got them at different times. Anyways, I think it's worth it because after I deducted the shipping cost (cuz I bought four pairs of shoes), I just got RM18 for each of the shoes. If you go to other places, it could cost you around Rm30 per pair. 

So my housemates influenced me to buy these shoes. Guess what? After I posted the photo on Facebook, my classmates started to notice my shoes and some of them said they wanna buy them too since it's on SALE! And I was so happy to promote Zalora to them.

This is the website

http://www.zalora.com.my/

So, while stocks last, you all better go and get your shoes too! Oh! and there's also nice clothes ad accessories at cheap price. Trust me! You won't regret it. 

Plus, if you sign up with your new email address, you can get RM20 voucher and that is much more interesting! Since I've signed up on Zalora before, so this time I just couldn't get the voucher. 

If not, RM75-RM20=RM55. Wow! I can get 4 pairs of shoes at RM55. Well, I just couldn't be bothered to create a new email just to get RM20 voucher. Rm75 for 4 pairs of shoes are already cheap enough for me.

I'm so happy to have new beautiful shoes ! ;)

That's all , take care bloggers! 

A piece of my mind

Sometimes lyrics are the best way to express feelings. No doubt. When I feel down or stressed up, I'll listen to songs that suits my thought and feelings and play the songs loudly as if I'm telling someone or myself about those lyrics. No words that I can put perfectly to make me think about my life except lyrics but I just have to get the right song and usually, the current hit song at the moment will always be the right song for me and what actually is happening to me. When I'm stressed I would think a lot. Think of the past, present and future. As if my thoughts would change the world. 

When I was feeling heartless lately for some reasons, the song Heartless by Kanye West @ The fray was the best song that made me feel comfortable. As if I'm letting go my heartless feelings by listening to the song. And listening to it loudly actually made me feel that I'm letting go of the stress, one way or another. And the song "I Knew You Were Trouble" by Taylor swift suits the situation for all girls who blame themselves for getting to know a guy. As an escapism from blaming the guys for it. It's like all Taylor Swift songs are just for girls who only blame themselves in failed relationship. And sometimes although I blame the guy for it, I felt like it was my mistake for having the relationship @ friendship (with a guy). 

So I'll listen to Taylor's songs so loud until it would hurt my ear but I don't care anymore. I just wanna release all the stress by doing so. There's no other way for me to release stress except for shopping which I would have to spend money and it will cause more stress and go to the sea to see and feel the peace where I don't even know where to find sea here in Perak. 

Now, I've played  Lovato's Heart Attack for so many times. It's like I'm in the song, trying to explore my own feelings. The lyric "So, I put my defenses up,cuz I don't wanna fall in love, If I ever did that, I think I'd have a heart attack. The feelings got lost in my lungs, the burning I'd rather be numb, and there's no one else to blame.So, scared I take off and I run, I'm flying so close to the sun and I burst into flames" just tells everything about what I'm feeling now. The feeling of not needed......in life.. I've always thought that I never wanna be in love but when I am in love, I just feel that I'm the luckiest girl in the whole universe! But after sometime, I'll feel that I don't need love or guy to survive. I can always live my life alone but I know those are just lies I created as a reflex of the situation.

Sometimes when we are in love, every love song seems to fit in the situation but when we just... let say we quarrel..every love song seems to be so irritating and nonsense. I bet everyone experienced that. 

I've always messed up my life. It seems I'm a person to screw everything that started nicely. Was it meant to be that way? Was it my mistake? was it me who caused all chaos in my life? Was it the situation? Or is it just me who are naturally born like that? 

When I felt like the guy was gonna leave me, I dedicated the song "white flag" by Dido to him, for him to listen to it and because , again, it expresses my true feelings of what I wanted to say to him that I couldn't just spit out because of my ego or probably because of not knowing how to put the words so that I won't hurt him. or the worst, I wanna say something that I think he doesn't wanna hear. So songs are just the best medium to connect people or partners. And the best medium to express feelings and release stress.

Just wishing myself all the best in future endeavors.And all of you readers too.

Take care Bloggers. :)